Blame yourself always.
–My Procedure–
The argument has started and I am losing.
I get defensive.
I get hostile.
I withdraw and retreat with negative and resentful emotions.
I say to myself, they are wrong, I’m the best and they suck.
Then I hypothetically say to myself, WHAT IF I was wrong? WHAT IF I’m the problem? WHAT IF I’m the dumb one?
The solution to the argument usually reveals itself at this point.
BLAME YOURSELF. Reflect. Be loving.
WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY?
SAY IT!
Have an opinion. That’s how you grow and learn. Plus it’s instant content.
Your mess, is your message.
Three hours of continuous writing a day will suffice, and be most efficient. More can result in low quality content or wasted time nibbling the pen.
You must imagine yourself being exactly where you want to be.
Envision yourself doing the task, being at the event, feeling the aura.
See yourself fulfilling your dream
Feel it. Believe it. Repeat it.
Have a f***** opinion -Feck Perfuction
Be that weird younger self that you used to be.
Play.
Share it with the world. Don‘t let fear stop you
Be ready to give up the thing that made you sick in the first place. That’s the only way.
First step would be to figure out what made you sick. If it isn’t obvious, start at square one.
Self Reflection + Sacrifice = Health
If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything -Mark Twain
Keep your mental space open for more important tasks
Do not seek to have events happen as you want them to, but instead want them to happen as they do happen, and your life will go well.
You’re joyous when you move towards your goal. What’s your goal? Let’s say the ideal self of beauty. The ideal becomes the judge. You move closer towards it, you’re joyous. You move away from it, you’re depressed.
What we do nowadays is destroy ideals. Because they judge us. We can’t compare to the ideal, so let’s destroy it. Ideal of men, women, beauty, love, art.
What happens then. No ideal. No goal. No progress. No joy. We all live bland and depressing lives just so we don’t feel inferior to the ideal.
Instead of thinking, “I hope they don’t reject me,” think, “I hope I’ll find out if they’re right for me.”
Instead of thinking, “I wonder if they’ll like me,” think, “I wonder what they’re like?”
Listen to your inner self. The more you do, the stronger it gets
Don’t give advice. Don’t soften the blow. Don’t share a personal story. Don’t say it’s ok.
Listen to them and be present!
When people attack or insult you, it just means some of their needs aren’t being met.
Figure out what the person is needing, they might not even know it themselves.
Paraphrase back to them, see if they feel understood, what are they needing, why are they hurt?
Don’t accept anything, no matter who said it. Let it guide you but don’t let it influence you. You must investigate what is true to you
Selfish! Stop thinking about you. Stop changing the external to make yourself feel better
I’m giving them advice you reason. When have you ever listened to quick advice?
Listen to people! Don’t think of what you want to say next. Watch their eyes, their movement, their tone and understand them. This will result in a good conversation
Don’t tell people your big goals. First of all, people can’t shoot ya down if they don’t know ya flying. Second of all, the second you tell people about your projects it gives your brain a satisfactory feeling, almost like you’ve already completed the task and are now receiving recognition for it. This will result in you quitting. Would you continue to work hard on something that you’ve already been praised for?
My own experience: Teasing songs on Instagram before they were finished. The second I posted them my interest plummeted, some songs I still haven’t finished to this day.
Set a goal
Have a routine. At least sleep and eat at the same time
Expose yourself to challenges voluntarily
If the path to your goal is cluttered the more negative emotion you will feel towards it. The clearer it becomes the more positive emotions you feel. This will result in a better attitude towards your goal which will motivate you to keep going. Clean the path and map out your route or you’ll quit before you get to the end
When someone argues with you don’t see them as your enemy. See them as a friend whom share the same interest as you. Someone who’s just trying to help you. You don’t have to accept his argument but at least don’t become hostile
Study culture. Through culture you will find friends and through those friends you will become a better person. By culture I mean the history of your family or your country. By culture I mean whatever interests you; Fashion, Music, Art, whatever you’re into. It’ll lead you to people who relate to you. Isn’t that what you want?
-Something I got from Confucius
Confidence comes from self respect. Do the things you tell yourself to do. Once you trust yourself you respect yourself, when you respect yourself others will respect you. If you don’t listen to yourself why should others?
Follow your interests, they will lead you to your true potential
If you don’t know what to do, figure out what NOT to do.
Follow your interests. Be aware of what seeks your attention during the day or in certain situations. Once you find the answer you’ll say it couldn’t of been more clear.
Where does your time go and why? What do you like to do, or watch, or listen to? What DON’T you like, and why? The more questions you ask yourself the more you have to work with. All these answers you give yourself will connect in some way and you need to know which way. Pinpoint it. You might not find your calling right away, but it’ll definitely move you in the right way
PS: You already know your calling, the problem is your not accepting it.
Set goals. The mind is constantly trying solve problems, that’s it’s job. If it has no problems to solve it will turn inward and create some. Insecurities, anxieties, worries about things that hold no real issue. Then you start to criticize yourself, tear yourself apart to the bone until one day you think your the problem and the only way to solve it is to leave. Life is suffering, no matter what, so choose your path choose your poison. Greet fate with open arms but do it on your terms. Set goals towards your ideal life.
The problem here is, we don’t like to sacrifice the now for later. If we don’t see instant results from our goals we will just throw them to the side and say will get em later. How do you get past that? Well i’d say figure out your life and figure out what would happen if you didn’t do the things you had to. The fear of what will happen can be more motivating than the excitement of achieving the goal.
Don’t plan for the good, just prepare for the bad.
You’ll be ready for the good, but the bad will happen so be ready but don’t dwell on it.
Observe Love Create